Coffee For One. No Fuss. Breath.

As some of you might already know, my daughter is almost 4 years old. I recently spent 3 whole days and nights away from her…FOR THE FIRST TIME! No I have never been away from my child for more than 22 hours total. I attempted a girls trip a few months ago that turned into a disaster because of a couple of the ladies on the trip who were acting like psycho sorority chicks. Long story short, I still didn’t cut the chord.

Recently, I had a work matter that required me to be away. I didn’t even think much of it. You would think that after almost 4 years of spending everyday with my daughter (exclude school hours), that I was would be a mess. If you think that I would have been a mess, you don’t know me. I think I have written about this before, my lack of understanding why parents get so worked up about being away from their kids. Having super meltdowns on the first couple days away. The parents not the kids! I am not shaming, so please don’t get it twisted. If you have had a super meltdown the first time you left your kids I am absolutely not shaming you. So you are probably asking then, why has it taken you this long to cut the chord Mollie? Well I just haven’t had a solid reason to cut it and I like spending time with my kid. Pretty simple answer, nothing to extensive about it.

Am I ready for a solo adult trip. Ya, I think it’s about time, I think, actually I know I deserve it. But for me, I don’t need to take trips to be away from my child, it just hasn’t been a priority to have ME time. I personally had a child for the love and connections that come with having children. With that, I have been devoted to spend as much time with my daughter, create memories with her and develop a really close and unique relationship. I didn’t have a child so that I can talk to my mom friends about how stressed I am. How I need time away from my kid. If that were the case I wouldn’t have kids at all. So a question that has always lingered in my brain is; do people feel like it’s their duty in life to create a family? Sometimes I feel like that might be the case when it comes to parents who are always taking trips away from their children. I am really not trying to sound judgy or critical. I also know many families that do quite a bit with their children and I love love love seeing that. Honestly, one day they are going to grow up and have their own lives, probably not want to do as much with you.

I had so many years pre baby doing many things I wanted to do, getting a lot out of my system. Do I have a shit ton of things I need to mark off my bucket list? I sure do! But I am going to do many of these things with my kiddos, my new adventure buddies (yes I am talking as though I have more than one kid, but I am planning to have two more). So I am glad I cut the chord. It wasn’t bad at all, sometimes missing someone makes you appreciate what you have so much more.

Table for one please! If you haven’t cut the chord and you are reading this, just know you will make it as long as you have a MollieAF attitude about it! 😉

MollieAF