Check Yo’ Shit Ladies!

This is more or less directed at women in their 30’s or older, yes I have run into some Men who are still acting like idiotic boys and they are long gone from my life. If you are still in your 20’s your shitty behavior is still excusable, but won’t be for long. I know I am going to get shit for this post, but damn, there are quite a few Women that have a hard time seeing one of their peers really fucking thriving. They pretend to be happy for you, but if you are like me and you feel energy from a mile away, then it’s easy to feel what it really deep down in someones core even though they are smiling on the outside. I joined a Mom group recently that is full of really confident hard working Women who aren’t trying to one up each other and really trying to lift each other up and help each other out. A lot of positive support and encouragement. It’s called HEYMAMA. These days the only people I can tolerate are confident, hard working humans, (hardworking can be a lot of things so don’t think I mean you have to have an actual job outside of being a parent, a job in itself 100 percent).

When it comes to insecurities, constant complaining and disrespect, I am like “PEACE OUT” get the fuck away from me. Unless I am being payed to deal with your problems, I don’t want to deal. Did that sound harsh? Well I guess it was. I guess the reason why it’s hard for me to be entirely empathetic towards friends, family or people I am around who are projecting their insecurities and problems on others in a negative way, is because I have experienced enough issues whether it has to do with family, relationships, health, etc. etc. And my advice is this; if you find yourself being a fucking asshole because of issues you are experiencing in your life, get a therapist (I am not a doctor, this is just friendly advice), and maybe take yourself away from people until you get your shit together. Maybe stay away from alcohol and other mind altering substances. Just a thought, again, I am not a doctor, I am only speaking from experience. Once upon a time I was a really really unhappy person, for good reason, but there was no good reason to treat others like crap or be disrespectful to anyone.

I have been around plenty of Women since becoming a Mother who become really nasty, especially when they see someone like me who is confident, loves what she does and handles the turbulence pretty well. I am absolutely not trying to sound like a cocky jerk, but it’s the damn truth, I am in a good place in my life. I have shitty days still and shitty weeks sometimes and my life is in no way perfect, but I am in my 30’s now and being a catty Women, being jealous, snarky and disrespectful is just totally uncalled for at this point. All I can say to the Women who are still acting this way is that I feel sorry for you, whatever you are going through, whether it’s your job, your husband, your kids, your home…GROW UP and handle it like a mature adult and learn to own up to your shit when you are being an asshole. If someone calls you out.. LISTEN! There are only a couple things that set me off; disrespect, sexual harassment and messing with my kid!

I think it’s hard for many people to see someone going through shit, like me, I am still going through shit, and see them handling it well. It makes people angry to see others handling life without being angry. Generally weak people want to shit on strong people. It’s the unfortunate way the world works. Also please understand I am not attacking Women, but I see this type of shit more in Women than I do in Men, and I am around A LOT of Men on a daily basis and I obviously have a lot of Women friends. I hope those of you reading this, that might be among those who are angry and insecure at this point in your life, don’t take this personally, don’t get defensive, if you can keep yourself from doing that then you are on the right track to being a confident human being who can own their shit and appreciate someone like me who is giving you tough love and showing you what it’s like to be a badass!

And just so everyone who is reading is aware. My morning started off SHITTY. I have had ongoing problem with my building and I have had the worst couple nights of sleep. BUT… I made myself look nice today, channeled my daughters silly self this morning and told myself it could be fucking worse. I know, easier said than done, hate on me all you want! You can laugh at me when I am having a panic attack in a month, but I promise I will be laughing harder than you when it’s over because that’s also something I have trained myself to do, its the best medicine!

Again, I wasn’t always feeling good about myself and I still have my off days, as we all do, but I go about it all differently. I don’t have to hate on others for their good days, I have definitely learned to channel that badass energy from others when I am having a rough day! So if my confidence and drive and ability to dust myself off easily makes your blood boil, please, by all means unfollow me, hate on me and keep living a negative existence while I keep getting stronger. With anyone who resonates with this and is like “FUCK YA”, get it girl, I love you and if I don’t know you, I want to know you! Strong badass confident Women UNITE!

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