Happy PARENTS Day

I delayed putting a Father’s Day post up until the day after Father’s Day.  Figured people wouldn’t really be on the internet trying to read or look at anything except the quick Instagram post or story.  Short attention spans, I totally get it.  So about Father’s Day.  Honestly it has a very different meaning and significance for me.  It’s a lot of different emotions.  On one hand it’s a very empowering day for me as a single mom.  On another, it’s kind of a sad day.  I didn’t grow up with the best men in my life or a father that I felt appreciated me.  I have always felt like more of a burden.  Maybe that’s not the right word.  I guess I have never felt the true love a father is supposed to have for his daughter and I have tried really really really hard to be close to him.  Listen life could be worse, I am not asking for sympathy, but it’s not really a day I have ever been excited to celebrate.  I have never had the type of male support that every daughter deserves. 

Since having my daughter I have been a little more excited to celebrate Father’s Day.  Why you might ask?  Well it’s a simple answer really and of course I will give you a more in depth one as well.  The simple answer is that I literally play BOTH parents.  As most of you know I am not co parenting.  You think I would be stupid enough to let an abusive piece of shit co parent with me?  Ya no thanks!  The deeper answer is that “Father’s Day” is bittersweet for me.  Again, I feel empowered to be taking on both parenting roles for my daughter, it’s not easy at all, but I wouldn’t have it any other way, but you see the majority of people celebrating all of these great men and it makes me a little bit sad, maybe even a little bit envious, which I am sure my daughter might feel one day as well.  The same goes for Mother’s Day.  Believe me I am well aware that there are some dads doing it all or same sex marriages with no real definition of who mom or dad is.  In my opinion, I think that because of the way things are changing and how families are not defined by the traditional norm, we should combine these two days, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day as simply, Parent’s Day or Family Day.  There are so many people/families that don’t have a family defined by your typical Female Mom and Male Dad.  One special day for parents is my vote, a girl can dream can’t she?!

I love being a single mom/dad.  I love doing it all even on days where I want to tear my hair out because I feel exhausted.  Most days I feel very lucky and fortunate to be doing what I am doing.  I think I am raising a pretty wonderful little human so far.  We have a relationship that is quite unique, she is the best friend I could ever ask for.  I want the single parents out there, Women or Man, taking it all on themselves, playing both roles, to know that you are a badass and you deserve to celebrate Mother’s Day and Father’s Day.  Don’t be afraid to give yourself a shout out on those days that someone might else might not.  It’s your day too!

For those reading that might not be as single AF as I am, please show some love to the single people you know that are taking on every task as a parent full throttle, I promise just a simple “you are doing a great job”, means the world to someone like me.  I beat myself up inside more than anyone would ever know (guess I am telling you now).  I am the only person the finger can be pointed at for how my children turn out one day, but I am constantly reminding myself to step back and observe my child who is happy, smart, wise and so inspiring to me.  She reminds me that I am doing a pretty good job at this whole single parenting thing.  Remember there is no such thing as perfect. The best will be good enough.

Single parents, I cannot say it enough, you are a FUCKING BADASS!

MollieAF