No Titles. Just Love.

I think a lot of folks would agree that Father’s Day is that one Holiday that kind of creeps up on you, like literally the day before. Don’t worry! It’s not for two weeks, I saw you freaking out just now as though it was this weekend. I am laughing a little, haha! The only reason I remembered was because I was approached by my daughters teacher this morning. I assume they are making some special cards in the next week or so, she didn’t really give me specifics. She asked how I had spoken to Mischka about her Father and whom she should be making the card for, aware that no father has been around for Mischka. Point blank, I’ve told her she doesn’t have a father, because well, she doesn’t! I’m going to be writing a Father’s Day post, so I don’t want to go too deep into the details of my conversations with Mischka about what has happened, where her father is, etc.

I want to point out that Father’s Day (and Mother’s Day) is really about celebrating that special person that is symbolic of your mom or dad (and obviously your ‘real’ mom and dad if you have one). There doesn’t have to be a title, it can be a day in celebration of the ones you appreciate for their love and guidance throughout life. Just because you might not have what the general population considers a father, does not mean you don’t have someone that is a FATHER FIGURE. For my daughter, my older brother is a father figure to her and my stepdad. These are men that have spent the most time with her and have shown her a lot of that fatherly love. It’s very special and wonderful that she has them. Sometimes our own real fathers, while physically present, might not be there for us emotionally. Maybe they have passed away. Whatever the reason, it’s important to have one person, blood or not, that we look up to as a Father figure (or mother).

I have said this before and will get more in depth about it later, but I play both roles for my daughter and she knows that, but it’s nice to see her have a bond with a man. This is something I think is very important. Some might not share the same opinion and I understand. On the flip side I think it’s important for boys to have a bond with a women. If you are in a similar situation that I am or if you feel left out on Father’s Day, try looking at your life a little harder, I can bet you have someone that you didn’t even realize was that special father figure to you. Maybe you didn’t want to give that person that title or you just didn’t really look at the circumstances of your relationship in that light, but that’s what they are to you if they have loved you and played a big role in who you are today. It’s never too late to let that person know. Something to think about right? On this upcoming Fathers Day my daughter is the luckiest girl to have a couple of people she can celebrate who have been father figures to her. One day she will look back and truly appreciate her life regardless of how different it may have been to her best friends or a family next door. She has a lot of love and that’s what will matter to her, not the titles, just the pure love she felt from specific people in her life.

Happy weekend to the ones we look up too, the ones that have shaped us and made us feel special throughout our lives. Those are the people we should celebrate without all of the titles.

MollieAF